• Alicia Eichman

4 Ways to Get the Most Out of Your Life Coaching Sessions

Don’t waste your time on a subpar life coaching experience.

In the best of times, a Life Coach is a mentor, friend, and blessing.

However, there may be times when you find you’re not getting the results you expected from your Life Coach.

It’s true that not all Life Coaches are created equal. They come from different backgrounds and personalities with varying levels of training and different specialties.

Some coaches specialize in women’s issues, some in entrepreneurship, others in family and relationship issues, and the list goes on and on.

When you’re first looking for a coach, it’s essential to do some research, as choosing a Life Coach who looks like a good fit for you right off the bat may improve your experience.

But choosing a coach who looks good on paper doesn’t always mean smooth sailing.

Below you’ll find 4 ways to get the most out of your coaching sessions.

“Time is really the only capital that any human being has, and the only thing he can’t afford to lose.” — Thomas Edison

1 — Find a Coach You Click With

Not every Life Coach is going to be a perfect match for you. Discovering whether they are a match early on will save you time and money in the long run.

If you don’t trust their guidance or feel a friendly, comfortable vibe with them, you should consider whether they’re the right coach for you.

Any time you start with a new coach, try to evaluate them with a critical lens in the first one or two sessions to determine if they’re a good fit.

Tip: Ask yourself these questions after the first couple of sessions:

  • Do I feel comfortable opening up to them?

  • Do they inspire me to reach my goals?

  • Have they given me any constructive guidance?

  • Do I think they understand my needs and feelings?

  • Do I enjoy talking to them?

If you’re answering ‘no’ to all, or even some, of those questions, it might be time to switch coaches.

If you answered ‘no’ to some questions but you still really like your coach, I’d recommend letting them know how your expectations differ from reality.

This opens the lines of communication on the subject and allows you to address the issue together.

A good coach will be able to handle this, and sometimes it will lead to an even stronger coaching relationship.

If their handling of your concerns is not satisfactory, maybe that’s your cue!

Two women talking at a table

2 — Make Sure Your Coach is Challenging You Enough

“If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.” — Fred Devito

I like to think of a Life Coach as a good friend who isn’t afraid to tell it like it is. The difference is that, afterward, they can set you on a clear path forward.

If your coach isn’t offering you guidance, exercises, thought-provoking questions, and valuable strategies for success, then consider whether they’re challenging you enough to make a difference in your life.

They should be encouraging you to break new ground. They should help you to step outside of your comfort zone so you can reach your goals.

No, the coach can’t do the work for you — but they should have an effective strategy for challenging you and inspiring you to make the changes that will help you succeed.

If they don’t, they might not be the best coach for you.

Tip: Ask yourself these questions:

  • Does my coach give me actionable advice and exercises that make sense in my life?

  • Am I able to list a few things that they have challenged me with?

  • Have they helped me identify and challenge unproductive habits in myself?

Ask these questions only after you’ve had at least a few sessions with them since it takes time to delve into the more challenging stuff.

If you find that they're not challenging you enough, bring it up — a good Life Coach will be able to adjust to your needs.

3 — Develop Clear Goals and Share Them with Your Coach

Your coach can’t help you if they don’t know what you want, so in the beginning, they will probably ask you what your goals are for life coaching.

If you aren’t sure, they should be able to help you clearly define your goals.

Without clearly defined goals, it’s almost pointless to proceed with coaching. The more specific your goals, the better.

Something like “I will be a better employee and mother” is not as good as, “I will plan out each workday with a productivity planner” and “I will spend two hours just being with my kids every evening.”

The second goals are better because they are measurable. You can easily say whether you’ve achieved the goal or not, and they’re specific, so you know exactly what you need to do.

Tip: Get your coach involved in your goal setting and ask yourself these questions:

  • How can I make my goals more specific?

  • Does my coach specialize in my unique goals?

  • How will I know when I have reached my goals?

  • What do I want to get out of life coaching?

  • Has my coach helped with my goals?

The onus of goal setting shouldn’t be solely yours. Your coach should know about your goals and help you make them more specific and measurable.

Your goals help your coach guide your coaching experience and help you get what you’re paying for, so make sure you take them seriously.

Another thing to consider is whether your coach specializes in your specific type of goal.

A Business Life Coach might not be the best person to help you with your personal relationship goals.

Make sure you’re aligned with your coach in that way as well.

A goal planner and a mug of hot coffee

4 —Commit to Putting in the Work

Life coaching isn’t an easy fix. It requires hard work on your part, and that’s something you should know going into it.

You may be confronted with hard truths about yourself.

You may have to challenge some very deeply ingrained thoughts and habits.

You may try really hard and still fail…several times.

But the benefit of having a Life Coach is that they can encourage you to keep going. They can help you change how you interact with the world and yourself, but they can’t do it single-handedly.

The prerequisite to success is your desire to succeed and willingness to put in the work.

Tip: Ask yourself these questions:

  • Am I invested in changing my life right now?

  • Am I willing to put in the work, even if it’s uncomfortable?

  • Do I have a plan in place to keep me on track?

If you answer no to any of those questions, you might need to consider whether you’re ready for life coaching.

If you struggle with putting in the work consistently, here’s another tip:

  • Ask your coach to help you make an action plan at the end of each session for the next week.

  • In between sessions, make sure you take the actions laid out in the plan and write down anything you want to talk about with your coach.

  • In the next session, start with a quick rundown of the work you did the week before — this can help hold you accountable and keep you on track.

In Conclusion

Life Coaches can be a wonderful part of your self-improvement journey, but they’re not one-size-fits-all.

It can take some work and a few vetting attempts with different coaches before you find the one, so it’s essential to go into any life coaching relationship with a critical eye and a willingness to put in the work.

When you feel like your coach is the right one for you, that’s when the real magic happens, so don’t settle for less!


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